First of all, welcome, sorry about your thin skin, &c.
Nice to see you here.
I pretty much agree with your assessment -- Out of Myself being my favorite as well, but loving every album by them. I actually had not listened to them in a while when I got and heard ADHD, so I really liked it, but didn't realize how much softer it was than previous releases. I really dig the second album.
And yes, definitely: RIYL Porcupine Tree.
I need to put all four on my iPod.